Foundations of The 7 Steps to Emotion Mastery: Your PETS

Previously, we discussed the meaning and significance of Your Gold and Your Truth. We learned that we could mine our most precious Gold and Truth by pondering and answering some questions that require us to look deep within ourselves.

After you have carefully considered those questions, try making two lists:

  • The first list should include the top five things that you most dearly want in and for your life. Write down what will make your heart sing!
  • The second list should contain five of the things that you absolutely detest and abhor, that is, what you absolutely do not want for yourself or in your life.

These two lists will be your initial PET lists. But what are your PETS? Simply put,

Your Gold + Your Truth = Your PETS

PETS stands for your Personal Emotional Triggers. They are those certain people, events, things, experiences, information, and aspirations that trigger the strongest emotion-generated energy reactions within you.

For me, personally, one of my most powerful PETS is that I absolutely HATE the thought of being in a hospital, waiting to be operated on for a life-threatening illness or injury. That scenario is one of my biggest fears. Therefore, staying healthy and out of hospitals . They are those certain people, events, things, experiences, information, and aspirations that trigger the strongest emotion-generated energy reactions within you.

For me, personally, one of my most powerful PETS is that I absolutely HATE the thought of being in a hospital, waiting to be operated on for a life-threatening illness or injury. That scenario is one of my biggest fears. Therefore, staying healthy and out of hospitals is also one of my most cherished PETS. This PET has motivated me to stop eating fried foods for the past twenty-five years.

Here’s another example. My mom was notorious for being late to everything, even her own wedding!  On one occasion, she was supposed to meet my father for dinner and a play. She was more than two hours late, and all the while my father was left standing outside the restaurant, freezing and worrying about her.

When my dad asked her how she could be so mean to him, so uncaring, that was enough for my mom to break years of habitual lateness.

She identified that her PET was that she abhorred being called and perceived as mean and uncaring, like she perceived her mother to be; and she NEVER wanted to be anything like her mother. As a result, she was able to tap into that supercharged energy to motivate her to never be late again!

If you take the necessary time to mine Your Gold and Your Truth and make the appropriate PET lists, you will be well on your way to making the most desired and beneficial life choices when you’re faced with a decision.

 

Foundations of The 7 Steps to Emotion Mastery: Your Gold and Your Truth

As we continue laying the groundwork for understanding and implementing my 7 Steps system, today we will discuss another fundamental component, Your Gold and Your Truth.

First let’s take a look at what I refer to as Your Gold. Your Gold will encompass your most highly valued dreams and goals. It is what motivates you the very most to do your very best. Your Gold is most easily understood as the tangible things, positions, or goals that you want to attain.

Next, let’s take a look at what I refer to as Your Truth. Your Truth is your vision of both the life you want most deeply for yourself and the person you most truly want to be. Your Truth is an idealized, or best, self.

By identifying Your Gold and Your Truth, you will have identified what truly motivates, moves and excites you. You will then be able to harness and tap into the strongest energy charges available to you for a greater chance of success in making the best life choices for yourself.

So, how do you go about finding your purest Gold and Truth? You have to go on a quest to mine them.

To begin, you need to take some quiet, focused time to dig down, heart-and-soul deep, to identify the people, things, and events that will make your heart sing!  Conversely, you have to go through the same exercise to identify those things you most fear, are ashamed of, or are repulsed by. During this time, which may be significant, you can ask yourself such questions as:

  1. What do I want deeply in life?
  2. What kinds of people do I want in my life?
  3. What makes me the angriest?
  4. What would my ideal life be like?
  5. What do I fear above all else?

This suggested list of questions just barely scrapes the surface. In order to mine your purest Gold and Truth, you may need to consider many more. (A more complete list of questions can be found in Your Killer Emotions.)

Once you have taken a deep, careful look within yourself and considered your hopes, dreams, fears, and shames, you will move on to creating some lists that will be your PETS™ (your Personal Emotional Triggers™). PETS are the topic of discussion in our next installment, so stay tuned!